The Give and Take of Friendship

Friendships are really important to me. I like to be a good friend and I like to have good ones and one of the ways to keep that going is to know that in friendship there’s a lot of give and take. Well, in mine anyway. It’s no secret that we have to maintain them in some sort of fashion, even if it’s to recognize the ebb and flow.

Friendships are like rivers, sometimes they’re wide when you need a lot and sometimes they’re narrow when you don’t need as much. They still move but at different speeds. I think I didn’t understand that when I was younger. I was a jealous friend. It was hard for me to see my close friends become close to other people. I finally learned that we can have a lot of friends to fulfill different needs we have and we can be a friend to many people for the same reason.

I work hard at staying connected to my friends, even though as I get older it’s not as frequent as I’d like. With our connectivity, I’m able to check in with them or reach out to them easily.

We text and email, we call and message through Facebook. We comment on blogs and Instagram photos and status updates, which are great.

We also see each other at dinner or lunch, we talk on the phone (I KNOW! THE PHONE!)

Because we’re all busy I’m patient and I know my friends are too when it comes to connecting. But I think it’s really important for our own well-being, so we have to make our friends a priority, however that takes form in this day and age.

About Julia Roberts

Laughing at raising your two kids with special needs is frowned upon in certain circles, you know? Like Grandma and Grandpa find it especially annoying. Blogging since 2005 at Kidneys and Eyes and co-founder of a social networking site, Support for Special Needs, she stays pretty busy working in her business with her husband (yeah, they're crazy) and insurance receipts. A night owl, Diet Coke lover, and vintage photo collector she hopes to raise advocates and activists.


  1. Ridx says:

    I love my friends and they are really important to me :’)

  2. Amiyrah says:

    I loved this, Julia. I’ve been lucky to lose some friends within the past few years. Yes, I said lucky, They weren’t the friends I thought they were, and when it came to the balance that is a true friendship, it was very heavy on my side and light on theirs. Thanks to writing and that magical thing called social media, I’ve been able to strengthen the relationships I decided to keep and develop some new ones. Strong friendships are such a blessing.

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  3. pri says:

    Great post, Julia.


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