There are so many things that I wish I knew about dating as a teenager that I know now. If I knew then what I know now, high school would have been a completely different experience for me.
For instance, most of the boys that you think are so cute today–the ones with the bad attitudes who think they can get by on their biceps and charm–will end up fat and going bald in about 10 years. He’s peaking now, that means there is nowhere to go but down hill.
The shy, quirky, quiet boy who sits in the back of the classroom and gets straight A’s–now, that’s the boy who will come into himself in college. He will be interesting because he’s read a lot. He will be polite because he’s always had to be. He will be caring because he is considerate and he will want to please you because you are his one and only, not one in a long line. These are all good things. He has nowhere to go but up.
When you are a teenager, cute and popular is the hot commodity. Who doesn’t want the cute, popular boy that all the other girls want? Of course we all want to say he’s our boyfriend and he chose us. But what’s the point?
The thing I didn’t know when I was a teenager is that these first boys we date are called crushes for a reason; they hurt. It’s easy to get your feelings hurt when you hang all your happiness on one boy. He’s a boy; he doesn’t even know yet how to make himself happy, much less you. When you are a teenager, you should be dating around.
Who came up with the stupid idea that girls have to wait for Prince Charming to come kiss them and make all their dreams come true? Go kiss some frogs. Make your own dreams come true. I wasted all of my teens on one boy. Yes, he was the “cute boy,” and I spent a lot of high school waiting around for him when I could have been out having fun with my friends and dating other boys.
Your teens don’t last forever, even though it seems like an eternity. Fast cars, big biceps, popularity and cuteness are not what make a good boyfriend. What makes a good boyfriend is someone who makes you feel special and genuinely likes you for who you are, not what you are willing to do for him or how cute or popular you are.
Spend time with your girlfriends. Go on lots of dates. Have fun. Be daring. Do what makes you happy. The rest will come.