I was a honor student with a 3.5 GPA. I was the secretary of our Student Council ,a representative for Ethiopia in Model UN, a 1st soprano in A Capella choir. I had my driver’s license and my own car. I had a great job.
Oh yeah, and I also got pregnant.
I hate shows like Teen Mom and Sixteen and Pregnant. Where they show the worst of the worse. Not every guy is going to be a dead beat. Not every girl is selfish and clueless.
Was having a baby in high school hard? Of course it was. If anyone tries to tell you differently then they are lying. But, having a baby at any age is a huge adjustment.
My boyfriend and I had been dating for over a year and we had sex exactly three times before I became pregnant. We were using birth control and it failed. When I found out I was pregnant he decided to not go off to college like he had planned and decided to join the Navy. My parents were very supportive but very clear that whatever I decided that it was my baby. She was my responsibility.
When they asked The Boyfriend and I what our plans were, The Boyfriend replied, “Well I’d like to get married and join the service so I can take care of my family.” I know that this isn’t a typical response.
My parents didn’t let us get married right away, they didn’t want it to be for the wrong reasons. I will admit that I was pretty angry that they wouldn’t sign the papers, but looking back I am sure that I would probably do the same thing.
When Giggles came along in December of ’94, I was now 17, engaged, and my now fiance was two states away completing basic training as a seaman recruit. We were married in February of ’95.
When she was born I lost friends, I felt alone, I was overwhelmed. These things are typical for many first time moms, not just the teenage ones.
Don’t get me wrong I am not an advocate for teenage pregnancy. One of my biggest fears is that one of my girls will come home and tell me that they are pregnant. But if they do I want them to feel comfortable talking to me about it.
If you ever find yourself in those shoes, don’t think your world is ending, it’s not. Surround yourself with a great support system and investigate all of the options for you. You will come out of this okay on the other side.