How To Be Popular

October 4, 2011
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Popularity. (pop-ewe-lair-it-ee) 1.The state or condition of being liked or admired by many people.

We all, at some time or another, want to be the popular girl.

But how? How do we win people over or even get noticed?

When I was in high school most of the “cool” crowd gained their “fame” because they were pretty or wore cute clothes or they had access to an older brother who would supply them with cigarettes and beer or they drove a fancy car that wasn’t a Ford mini-van covered in dog hair.

They appeared to have it all. People liked them because of what they looked like or owned.

And let me tell ya… all of that? Is SO NOT IMPORTANT.

Do you know what IS important?

Loving yourself.

I don’t mean that you should gaze in the mirror for hours admiring your lips or bragging about your shiny hair.

There is a huge difference between confidence and vanity.

You should think you’re beautiful, because you ARE. You should think you’re smart, because you ARE. You should think you’re capable of anything, BECAUSE YOU ARE. We are all unique in our own imperfect ways. That’s what makes you and I amazing individuals. Can you imagine how boring this world would be if we were all the same?

You want people to like you? Here’s the secret: be yourself. Love yourself. Respect yourself enough to make good choices. Keep learning about yourself (especially through your mistakes). Be kind and humble. Be honest and brave. Be the kind of person that you would want to be friends with. Explore, dream, and discover.

Now go out there and look beyond the surface. That’s where you will find all the love you need.

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About Robin Plemmons

Robin Plemmons is an artist. She makes greeting cards in her own funky handwriting that say things like, "Congratulations on making a human with your genitals!" & "I hope you washed your crotch because I'm about to put my face in it." You can find them in her Etsy shop (lemonswithapea.etsy.com). She blogs at ballstothewallyall.com & tweets like a horny hyena. Follow her if you like that kind of thing: @robinplemmons.

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  1. Jenny, Bloggess says:
    October 4, 2011 at 9:18 am

    So I need to stop bragging about me shiny hair? (What’s left of it, I mean?)

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  2. UnknownMami says:
    October 4, 2011 at 9:27 am

    Amen.

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  3. Truthful Mommy says:
    October 4, 2011 at 9:30 am

    I love it. I try to live. And I certainly want my girls to live their lives like this!Great way to kick off MU!!!

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  4. JW Moxie says:
    October 4, 2011 at 9:57 am

    “Be Who You Be” – I needz to know how I can get one of those for the wall in my kids’ playroom.

    I wasn’t the “strive to be popular” type in school, but I did always envy the ease it seemed that “popular” kids have with meeting new people and carrying on flowing and non-stumbly conversation. Heck – I STILL feel like that sometimes.

    I wish I could have read this when I was 13.

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  5. Lindsey says:
    October 4, 2011 at 9:57 am

    Just came here after a TruthfulMommy retweet… and this is my new fave! LOVE! Thanks for putting out such a good message

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  6. erin margolin says:
    October 4, 2011 at 10:01 am

    Robin,

    Wow! You’ve set the MU bar high and now I’m totally paranoid about the posts I have lined up. This is amazing, so beautifully stated, and written in a very engaging way—BRAVO!

    LOVE IT!

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    • Robin Plemmons says:
      October 4, 2011 at 11:02 am

      Dude. Thanks, Erin! We’ve all got sumthin’ to say because we’ve all been there before. I’m so thankful for this platform & the potential it has to actually make a difference. Excited to see your inevitably awesome posts.

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  7. Alexandra says:
    October 4, 2011 at 10:24 am

    You live it, sister, I saw it with meeee own eyes at BlogHer.

    And it’s contagious.

    Thank you for loving on me that last day in San Diego.

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  8. Megan says:
    October 4, 2011 at 11:00 am

    Perfect. :)

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  9. By Word of Mouth Musings says:
    October 4, 2011 at 11:02 am

    Great post, love from your avid fan …
    of course also your wingman,
    I mean hitman!

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  10. Loukia says:
    October 4, 2011 at 11:33 am

    I love this. And you’re so right, it’s so important that we love – and respect ourselves.

    Also, I can’t see or say the word “popular” without thinking of Amy singing that song at BlogHer in 2010 in NYC.

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  11. Chele says:
    October 4, 2011 at 1:06 pm

    Perfect post… just love it!! :) You are an amazing woman Robin and I’m happy to say you are that person!

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  12. barbsobel says:
    October 4, 2011 at 2:17 pm

    i heart you. love you? maybe. heart you? definitely.

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  13. Stefanie says:
    October 4, 2011 at 5:48 pm

    Shout it from the rooftops sister!

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