Ready, Willing, and Kegel: Adventures In Feminine Fitness

Disclaimer: If you are a blood relative, co-worker, or anyone whose opinion of me would be sullied by the mental image of me crab-walking around my apartment with something protruding from my lady bits, please do me a favor and back slowly away from your computer. Yes, right now.

With a baby coming out of me in four short months, you’d think the last thing I’d want to do is insert foreign objects into what my college roommate would call my “woo.”

But after publicly disclosing my ineptitude at kegel exercises on this very site, I was contacted by not one, but TWO lovely women who offered to help. Which is how I ended up doing dishes with balls hanging between my legs. It’s what my husband would feel like… if he did dishes.

Kidding! He totally does dishes. The point is, I had balls.

Kegel balls.

Let me back up.

So after I bitched and moaned about vaginal prolapse, Garnet from sent me a set of K-Balls and Maria from Eden Fantasys sent me the Juno (links somewhat NSFW).

I had to have them shipped to my office, since I’m not home to get UPS or FedEx packages, and worriedly asked Garnet and Maria to make sure the boxes did not say “KEGEL BALLS” in comically large letters, because our mail room guy, Carlos, gives me enough shit as it is.  Anyway, here they are, with a basic (for winos) household appliance. See if you can guess which one I have not had intimate relations with:

No, it's not THAT kind of rabbit.

I must say I was relieved that neither of them was one of those contraptions that looks like a garlic press. My vagina is not a Play-Doh Fun Factory.

Anyway, the K-Balls, center in the above photo, are round and pink-patterned and look like what Jonathan Adler might come up with if asked to design a cat barbell. The Juno, by comparison, is more abstract and imposing, a sort of MoMA Design Store dildo. But both got the job done.

Traditional kegels, as most of you probably know, involve squeezing your pelvic floor muscles and holding them, sort of like genital crunches, but I’ve always found them difficult because you’re trying to engage muscles you most often use when stopping yourself from peeing or while having sex–two activities that involve having something inside you. For me, doing kegels just for kicks is like trying to strengthen your hand by grabbing onto… nothing. So having something tactile to, ahem, snatch up (thank you, thank you, I’ll be here all week) made the exercises a lot easier, and more fun, once the slight embarrassment subsided.

(Only now, in retrospect, am I realizing that in a perfect world, I would have conducted my experiment while listening to “Pussy Control” by Prince. Sigh.)

So: for everyday, around the house use, I would recommend the K-Balls, because they’re lightweight enough that you can still move relatively freely with them, um, in you. (I mean, you can’t slap some pants on and wear them to work, but you can definitely fold laundry, or watch a few episodes of Modern Family, wearing a loose-fitting robe). I was a little confused about whether both balls were supposed to go in or only one, so I settled on one, mostly for fear of accidentally vacuuming them up in there and having to be one of those shameful emergency room cases that comes around once per season on every prime time medical drama. The texture and weight of the K-Balls was pleasant–it was easy to flex my pelvic floor around the orb shape–and as an added bonus, they were… arousing. As arousing as lady balls get, I’m betting.

The Juno was more advanced. It’s actually fairly heavy, so the manufacturer suggests that you start with the smaller tip and support the weight with your hand as you build up your strength. But emboldened by my K-Balls experience, I went right for the business end, and was shocked to discover that it wouldn’t just stay in on its own, as the K-Balls did–I had to really clench. It was kind of like I was trying to prevent a giant glass icicle from falling from my crotch and impaling a small creature below. So even though I couldn’t walk around as freely (or, really, at all, unless I waddled with a makeshift  tee-shirt safety parachute held beneath me), I was working much harder.

After using both exercisers over the course of a week, I could definitely feel a difference. I mean, I could crack walnuts without even using my hands! OK, that’s an exaggeration. But I did find that I could perform traditional kegels more easily, and without the futile, straining feeling I used to get. I was also pleasantly surprised to discover that my training paid off in the boudoir. The greatest test, of course, will be how quickly my pelvic floor bounces back after ejecting an eight pound human from my loins. I’ll keep you posted on that. But in the meantime, I highly suggest you invest in a kegel-cizer.

They truly are the sex toys that keep on giving.

About Una LaMarche

Una LaMarche blogs at The Sassy Curmudgeon, and writes for The New York Observer, The Huffington Post, and NickMom. She dominates at mini golf, especially after a few drinks, and it is a fact that Tim Gunn once complimented her on her sandals. You can find her hawking blog posts and fetishizing candy on Twitter, and if you really want to feed her ego (which took a major hit thanks to an adolescent unibrow and a penchant for Troll doll earrings), you can become her fan on Facebook.


  1. Libby says:

    Oh dear god. You are a brave woman. And I will always think of you from now on when cracking walnuts.

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  2. Una LaMarche says:

    Haha, yeah. Every so often I write something and think, I will really regret putting this on the internet.

    But then I do it anyway.

    And I am honored that I will be forever linked to nutmeats in your mind.

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  3. Rachel H. Scotland says:

    Your vagina is KIND of like a Play-Doh Fun Factory. You’ll be squeezing a shape out of there soon enough.

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  4. Megan says:

    So if you had to purchase one, which would it be?

    I have the same Kegel dilemma you do; I don’t feel like I’m getting anywhere.

    I want my “woo” to be a superhero.

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    • Una LaMarche says:

      I’m actually really torn. It’s like choosing between yoga and free weights: both tone your body, but one is more relaxing and the other more strenuous. So I would say, if you like yoga, go with the K-Balls. If you need to break a sweat to feel like you’re working out, go with Juno. Does that make sense?

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  5. Penbleth says:

    It’s great these worked for you. Can I urge some caution in not over doing it. Too many kegels during pregnancy can make a vaginal delivery difficult. The very muscles that stop you oeeing yourself will make it quite a struggle to deliver if you overdo the exercise. So, you know, do some but not too many until after delivery. Then go for it, walnuts here you come.

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    • Una LaMarche says:

      Thanks Penbleth, but let me assure you there is absolutely no danger of my overdoing it. I remember to do them maybe once a week. Commitment, I rock at it!

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  6. meanliving says:

    I am going to order one of these under the guise of improving my performance at jumping rope. That’s right, you heard me; I’m more concerned about being able to rock the speed rope than please my man in bed. Think on THAT, Cosmo.

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  7. I almost fell off my desk chair at “snatch up”!

  8. HeatherS says:

    Can’t think of anything clever enough so I’m going to go with quite possibly the funniest thing I’ve EVER read. Oh my God. I don’t think I could about something like this if anyone I knew was still alive.

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  9. Nancy says:

    Good God in Heaven! Snatch up?! You were right..the internet had better blow itself up busted but good before that boy grows old enough to find this one.
    Very funny, yet informative and also appalling.

  10. This is brilliant! I love the honesty. In France you get 10 sessions with a special physio who inserts a probe which is connected to a machine and once you are to tired of squeezing it does it for you … very weird but get rehab post partum. I’d relax now and worry about the kegels 6 weeks after your little one is here!

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  11. CollegeRoomate says:

    Una! The way I refer to my — was a secret! Now it’s in quotations on the internets!

    • Una LaMarche says:

      Oh, relax, I didn’t use your name, did I? And woo is cute, which is why I quoted you. I once knew a girl who called it her “prune.” Now THAT is unfortunate.

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  12. After reading your post, my vajayjay become so frightened that she packed up her things and ran away. I’m not sure if I will ever see her again. Seriously, that thing on the right looks like some kind of medieval torture device. You have one rockstar vag, Una. I’m impressed. Even if you can’t crack walnuts with your ladybits. Your still a hero to me.

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    • Una LaMarche says:

      Thank you! My vagina has never been called a rock star before. It feels like Prince. (Too bad the stage name Pink is taken–ba dum bum.)

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  13. buzzvibe says:

    Great post and props for the puns!

    Just in case you don’t already know, it’s perfectly fine to insert both K-Balls. They come out easily with the retrieval cord, and things don’t tend to get lost in vaginas, so I wouldn’t worry about them disappearing up inside of you.

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  14. Becky says:

    LOL! Gotta love it!

    Oh – and I learned something about K-balls… and now I think I am going to have to try that ;-)

    BTW, it is true about those ER visits you know. As a former ER nurse, I have had the privilege in assisting in the delivery (complete with forceps) of a … potato ;-0

    • Una LaMarche says:

      Oh God. A potato? Not even a cucumber or a summer squash?

      I’m just glad the delivery was successful and that mother and spud were both healthy.

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