Every once in a while I hear people complain about how easily we toss around the word brave, that we should save that word for real bravery, like when someone survives an earthquake in Haiti or risks their own life to save another’s in Afghanistan. I don’t doubt the bravery of a person who pulls their family from a burning building, but I think we need to remember the bravery each of us shows over the course of regular life.
There is always something worse than what we’re dealing with. I’ve lost a uterus, but someone else has lost a foot, but then someone else lost both their legs, and then there’s that woman who lost all her limbs right after giving birth, and then someone else died pulling their baby out of the mouth of a bloodthirsty cougar, and suddenly I’m not allowed to claim my bravery in the face of my own, very personal, loss.
It is dangerous to allow ourselves to be pushed into downplaying our own acts of courage, as though there is some kind of moral superiority in failing to recognize all but the most extreme examples of bravery. A failure to note the strength we bring to our own experiences is often mistakenly applauded as humbleness, and that failure can lead to an undervaluing of our own abilities.
With children, we cheer them on for their small acts of courage. We clap when they leap off the one meter diving board and when they make that first wobbly ride without their training wheels and when they connect the bat with that terrifyingly fast ball. We cheer on their courageous achievements as steps toward becoming greater people.
When it comes to adult women, though, we are often told that our acts of bravery aren’t worthy of acknowledgement. Everyone gives birth and deals with health scares and has drama in their lives they have to deal with. We are told that this is just the condition of our lives, and we should leave words like bravery and courage for those who really have it. Why, when we become adults, should our experiences with bravery and courage no longer be considered valuable?
I want to tell you something: our experiences with fear and overcoming fear are valuable. Someone else might drive ambulances through war zones for a living, but you are not them. You are you, and it took every ounce of courage you had to ride that roller coaster last summer, and you are more powerful in every other aspect of your life now that you know you have what it takes to overcome your fears.
Acknowledging the bravery we exhibit in common life is an acknowledgement of our own power. It allows for us to believe in the possibilities within our abilities. It’s a matter of self-esteem.
It is not a morally superior high road to tell people that their own experiences are worth less because someone else has had a similar but more extreme experience. That kind of thinking steals our right to acknowledge the powerful events of our own lives relative to our own experience and the very real and important effects that they have on us.
So, I’m here to take my bravery back, both small and large. I was brave when:
- I started using our building’s laundry room alone, even if only during the day, despite the fact that it is scary as hell down there and probably harbours escaped psychopaths.
- I took a stand against my addiction to alcohol and quit drinking last summer.
- I stuck it out and stayed with the Palinode ten years ago rather than run from the powerful feelings I had, even though I was terrified of the possibility of heartbreak.
- I stayed with my family by my grandfather’s bed while he died, even though it was one of the most difficult emotional situations I had ever encountered at the time.
- I went to the dentist for a check up, even though a negative experience years before gripped my heart with fear.
Each of these situations taught me that I can and that I can do. Overcoming fear, being brave in the face of anxiety, instills a sense of personal power and self-esteem, which leads to real power in our lives. Bravery is not just for children as they learn how to become greater people and for heroes only in the most extreme situations. Bravery is for us. It’s our courage that makes us greater people.
So, I’m taking my bravery back. I’m acknowledging my courage, and I want to acknowledge yours.
Tell me: I was brave when…
About Schmutzie
This is a very powerful article that should really strike a chord in most women — we’re always comparing ourselves to others and, in our minds, coming up short instead of acknowledging how strong (and often brave) we really are.
I was brave when I struck out on my own this year and started a small business, instead of going back to a corporate job, after a year of unemployment. People told me that I was brave and I don’t think I let myself believe it quite enough. Thank you for helping me reclaim my bravery!
Twitter Name: CountessMo
It is brave to step out on your own professionally. Own it!
Twitter Name: schmutzie
Kudos! I’ve been saying this for so long, and trying to convey it to others (albeit far less eloquently!) This is truth.
I was only this morning thinking about how brave I can be, surprising even myself. Yesterday, my 15 year old cat died. We found him still on the back deck. He’d been with me since I was 18. My entire adult life. Preceding all other pets and children. He was part of me. Rather than hide from his still body, open mouth, drooled on and defecated on fur, I immediately scooped him to my body and held him.
It seems obvious, but I didn’t know I’d react that way. I didn’t run. I didn’t hide. I was brave. Thank you for the freedom to claim it.
Wow. I’m a cat person through and through, and you just made a mess of me.
I’m so sorry you lost him.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I was brave when I finally left the boyfriend who was physically abusive.
I was brave when I spent Christmas at home in bed with my severely injured mother while I was pregnant. I was brave while my baby’s father left to spend Christmas with his other family.
I was brave when I looked after two kids who weren’t my own as well as a colicky new baby in the thick of undiagnosed severe post-partum depression.
I was brave when I finally went to the doctor to get help for my post-partum depression.
I was brave when the father of my child left me during that time.
I was brave when I faced surgery to look after a tumour of unknown etiology.
I was brave when I faced the first of the tests for this tumour on my son’s third birthday.
I am brave now as I recover from that surgery, this time able to allow others to help. I am brave as I continue to try to hold my own at my job as best I can from my bed.
I am brave as I try to remember to always ask others how they are doing, no matter what condition I’m in. I am brave as I try to remember that my physical and mental condition affect others, too.
Thank you for giving me a place to say this.
Twitter Name: Robin Markel
I can see that I am just going to spend this afternoon being a sentimental mess about other people’s bravery, and knowing you in person, Robin, just makes me that much messier.
I am proud of you, really proud.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I think comparing bravery is about as insane as people trying to compare grief. Everyone is entitled to their grief and bravery. I don’t think comparisons necessarily make sense. Also when some say that others aren’t brave enough or whatever..because say they didn’t chew off their own arm to survive, I tend to want to poke them in the eyeball with a spork.
Oh wait, you asked a question huh?
I was brave when I got up and spoke at BH09, even though I wanted to vomit and run away.
I was brave when I wrote a post for VU, even though I wanted to vomit and run away. (Ha. Theme.)
I was brave when I allowed my now ex) husband to move us 1300 hundred miles away from our life.
I was brave when I finally got out of bed after eight week, after I’d lost a 14 week pregnancy.
Some people may not find any of this brave. But for me, it was.
Twitter Name: Issascrazyworld
Absolutely brave, every last bit of it.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
HEART, ISSA
Twitter Name: Anissa Mayhew
And I’ll never forget your reading at BlogHer09, Issa. Thanks for being brave.
Twitter Name: suebob
I was brave last week, when I held my grandma’s hand to help her through some scary nighttime chest pains, knowing full well that they were more serious than we were both admitting. I was brave last night, when I remembered that just before she passed away she’d told me how proud she is of me for being strong and independent, and in her honor I squashed my long time fear of singing in public and sang out loud and proud in my music class.
Your grandmother was right. Singing in public can be terrifying. Go you!
And bless your grandmother. I’m sorry that she’s gone.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
Amen.
I was brave when I hauled my ass out of bed every morning, in throes of post-traumatic stress/post-partum depression, to visit my 2 lb., 7 oz son in NICU, then go home and do it again a few hours later.
Twitter Name: msmegan
Not only brave, but a fantastic mother, which, I suppose, goes along with bravery.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I was really moved by this post. And I really don’t want to rain on your parade with sad stories. So I will say sorry in advance because this one is the parents worst nightmare.
I am brave because I have survived two of my five kids deaths. You see my son and daughter were killed in an accident; its been almost five years. At first I didn’t even want to get out of bed, but every day I got stronger and stronger. I have great husband and family, good friends, my other kids are the best.
But I think if there is something inside us some inner strength, that courage that you talk about in this post. I’m not sure I would have made it to the other side, stronger than I was before if I didn’t acknowledge that I had it.
There is something inside each of us. My grandmother once told me that each of us is born with all we need to make it through if we look inside ourselves, and I believe her.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
Jen your story touched me. You are very brave. So sorry for your incredibly difficult loss.
I love this.
I often discount what I might be going through to ‘give myself perspective’ because someone else is going through something much worse.
This is wonderful and has given me much to think about. Thank you. Thank you for being brave. :)
You’re welcome :)
Twitter Name: schmutzie
The part of me that gave this site one last try when no else had believed in me.
When failure seemed right around the corner.
Facing down the odds is what I’ve had to learn to do.
Twitter Name: Anissa Mayhew
And I am SO glad that you gave it another try. You make my corner of the internet a brighter and more soulful place.
Thank you, Anissa.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
Thank you, this is something I have struggled with for years. In part not wanting pity for the struggles I have dealt with, and minimizing things because I know people who had it so much worse. So here goes.
I was brave when I was finally able to tell my mom last year that I was raped as a teenager.
I was brave when I held my son and ex husband together when we had to put our 15 year old dog to sleep.
I was brave when I took the leap and quit a long time job that I was unhappy with.
I was brave when I told my boyfriend, I love you. After a heartbreaking divorce I was not sure I would ever say that again.
I was brave when I moved to Chicago with my ex, and brave for staying post divorce since I don’t have family here.
Twitter Name: Kimanism
I took that hard leap from a bad job a few years ago, and it took me a good couple of years to screw up the courage. It feels good, doesn’t it?
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I was brave when I finally got treatment for my depression. Thank you for this post.
Twitter Name: capitolbreeze
I’m proud of you for doing that :)
Twitter Name: schmutzie
Thank you for this. Such a wonderful post, and one I think we all needed to hear, whether we knew it or not.
I’m totally going to write “you are you” on all my mirrors, because that is also something I needed to hear.
I was brave when I lost my job almost a year and a half ago and I chose to stick it out on my own, rather than move home. Even though the unknown was terrifying.
I was brave when after being unemployed for almost a year and a half I was able to pick myself up and apply for a job that was scary and perfect and potentially able to crush me if I didn’t get it. A job I got and am now thriving in.
And I was brave when I take pleasure in my friends successes instead of focusing on what I haven’t accomplished…yet.
Twitter Name: JustShireen
I love that last one! Brilliant. Thank you.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
it’s true. I have that tendency to downplay, to say we all have those things in our lives and we either handle them or they break us, so we have to go on. But really, it’s true that sometimes it takes a really deep breath to do that going on.
Standing up against my mom during one of her first psychotic breaks and refusing to let her drive like that, sticking with her through the night turned into a touchstone that made me braver later. “If I could do that, I can do this.”
Standing in front of an auditorium full of professionals to tell stories? nerve-wracking, but pride-making after I did it.
Deciding that i had to swallow my fear of needles and never show it to my children so they wouldn’t absorb it took bravery I didn’t know I have – and resulted in way less fear of needles for real, in the end.
Laundry room in the spidery basement lair? Brave every time.
Thanks for saying this and encouraging everyone else to, as well – it’s a fantastic post.
Thank you for sharing with us. I’ve had on my cry face all day reading here, and I just want to pin a badge of courage on everyone.
And this might sound strange, but thank for sticking with your mom through that night. As someone who suffers from mental illness, I know how important it is to have someone by your side during the dark moments.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I am brave every day when I put aside my social anxiety and just smile at people. I am so brave, in fact, that most people would be surprised to know how scared I feel inside when I meet new people. Thank you for reminding me of how brave I am and for letting me know that it matters. This is one of my most favorite blog posts now. Like EVER.
Twitter Name: Faiqa
I think it’s fabulous that you will push through that fear so that people can have the joy of knowing you :)
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I would never have guessed you had any social anxiety, Faiqa. For reals!
I was brave when I put on a happy face and participated in 2 of my friends’ baby showers after suffering a miscarriage.
Twitter Name: yestheysaidthat
Talk about being generous of spirit. I hope your friends know what they’ve got :)
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I was brave when I put on a happy face and participated in 2 of my friends’ baby showers after suffering a miscarriage.
Twitter Name: yestheysaidthat
woah… thanks for sharing that. very brave.
Well, hell. I just posted an “insufficiently courageous” drawing on my blog today so maybe I needed you to write this for me.
I resisted buying the rope I thought about every day for several years straight. I didn’t google how to tie a noose. So – is that brave? Or just lazy?
Twitter Name: ffantastica
René, I’m going to go with the idea that I expressed in an earlier comment: we all have that bravery inside us somewhere, even if we don’t know for certain that it’s there.
I am so glad that you haven’t bought the rope, and I hope that you never do. If you’re ever in danger, give me a shout. Any time. I’m here for you, lady, and that’s no lie.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I was brave when…
My wife told me she wanted a divorce, and I had to figure out to be a parent on my own, and I decided that I was going to be the best dad I could be. I found a path to my Faith, and started working on being a single dad, even before the divorce was filed. It was frightening, but I did it for my daughter. And now I’m a husband again, a dad still and a step-dad. I’m still scared that I’m the spiritual leader of a family, but I face it with bravery now.
Twitter Name: danmoyle
You stepped up when so many don’t. That’s good work.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I was brave when my husband filed for divorce.
I was brave when I had to start a new life on my own, never having lived alone a single day of my 38 years.
I was brave the first week I let my baby girl go to her dad’s for his turn at custody, even though I wanted to grab her and run as far away from him as possible.
I was brave when I went to therapy for the first time ever and admitted I needed help.
That’s so many new beginnings all at once. I’m glad that you’re getting support for it all.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I was brave tonight when I sang at an open mic event. I’ve sung all my life. I’ve sung in front of people for much of it. I haven’t sung in public for years. I miss it but I was afraid I was too old, I’d lost my ability, people would think I was stupid. But I did it anyway and people liked it. I don’t believe they were just trying to make me feel better either.
Twitter Name: Kizzbeth
Singing in public is something I wish I was more comfortable doing. Go you!
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I think of Mother Teresa, though she spoke of suffering instead, “We cannot compare sufferings.”
We cannot compare our acts of bravery. They are brave TO US.
By the way: I get prescription valium for the dentist. That’s how phobic I am.
Twitter Name: gdrpempress
See, but from my perspective you’re brave for getting the valium to go. I haven’t been to the dentist in about seven years because I’m so phobic. I think someone’s going to have to hog-tie me to get me to the dentist.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
You can do it. Get the pills and go! I promise, you can!
Twitter Name: HeatherSchiavo
I was brave when I admitted I needed help and went to doctor where I definitively received a diagnosis of depression.
I was brave when I admitted that I couldn’t fix myself on my own.
I was brave when I agreed to take the anti-depressants.
I was brave when I eventually “confessed” to my mother.
I am brave when I attempt to educate people about depression.
Twitter Name: chibijeebs
Exactly. And keep preaching it. People need to hear it.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
You are brave. I could have written all those things myself. I am brave because even when I mention needing an attivan for this or that to my sister or my mom or my dad, they tell me, “You don’t really need those pills. You’re not that bad.” It’s so hard to make people understand.
Twitter Name: HeatherSchiavo
Oh, Heather. :( That breaks my heart. For the most part, my family is fairly understanding – at the very least, they don’t say anything negative to my face (unfortunately, *I’m* the one telling myself that crap). *big, fat, squooshy bewbie hugs* to you.
xoxo
Twitter Name: chibijeebs
Thank you. You just made me cry. I often joke with my friends that if the rest of my family would take their pills, I wouldn’t have to :). But I do. It’s just that a)they don’t want to admit there is mental illness in our family (even though we come from a long line of it) and b)they are afraid of it.
Twitter Name: HeatherSchiavo
I want to hug you so tight!
My mom has serious issues with medication of any type (well, prescription meds) because she grew up watching her mother’s addiction to prescription narcotics – my mom even balks at taking antibiotics when she’s sick. It was hard to admit that I was taking antidepressants knowing her negative attitude – I was scared of her potential reaction, and being in that… delicate place of freshly diagnosed didn’t help.
If you ever need an ear, look me up on twitter or facebook, or shoot me an email (chibijeebs at gmail dot com).
Sending you TONS of love. <3
Twitter Name: chibijeebs
This is such a timely post for me, as usual when it comes from you, Schmutzie. Thank you.
I was just brave an hour or so ago, I think. I posted a post I started drafting weeks ago, about having my latest terrible bout with depression. I talked about medication, and seeking therapy. I mentioned grief and concerns about my lack of a family life. I don’t do that very often, although I’m so very vocal online. I’ve just decided lately that if I’m going to be, I need to talk about the things that really matter or shut up. But I was afraid.
Now, consequences be damned, maybe not so much. I once read that courage is feeling fear and doing whatever you’re doing anyway, and nothing about it equates with “easy.” I think that’s why it’s so valuable when we can find it within ourselves.
Twitter Name: lauriewrites
It’s a terrifying leap, but it’s a good one, Laurie. I promise you. You have a powerful internal voice.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
Schmutzie,
This was so beautiful. I have a post written about being brave but I’m not brave enough to hit publish. I was brave enough to tell a judge what a 15 yo kid did to my daughter, but I’m not brave enough to speak about it out loud.
I’ve been brave about a lot of things. But the one thing I’ve been most brave about still kills me inside.
Thank you for sharing and encouraging. One day I will again be brave.
Sara
You’re brave to meet your struggle and continue on, even if you can’t come to closure with it yet. It’s the strength you have now that is getting you there :)
Twitter Name: schmutzie
Thank you! A mere 8 letters, but I mean them very much.
Some days, I’m brave just by putting two feet on the floor and getting out of bed to face the day. I have to hold on to that when I’m afraid. Thank you for your amazing, AMAZING words, Schmutzie.
Thank you for putting your feet on the floor every day, and you’re welcome :)
Twitter Name: schmutzie
You are so right. Many of us downplay our losses, hurts and fears because there’s always a situation that trumps our’s… mine. I think men often feel this way, too.
It continues to happen. As I read the comments following your “I was brave when…” I thought to myself, my fears and examples of bravery aren’t worthy. But they are. Thank you.
Your bravery is absolutely worthy.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I was brave when I was seventeen and I was mugged on vacation in a very far away city. I chased down the mugger (on his bike) to get my purse back.
I was brave when I found out by accident (at age 34) that I was adopted .
I was brave when I was 13 and the police came and told me my mother had died.
I was brave when I knew I had miscarried and went for the “confirmation” ultrasound all by myself.
The thing is..I’ve never thought I was brave for any of those things. Thank you for making me look a little closer and dig a little deeper.
Twitter Name: izzymom
I am amazed by the people I know online, and you are no exception.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
I guess I was brave when I took my son (age 8 at the time) to the ER to request a psych consult and admission to an inpatient facility. It didn’t feel courageous then, it felt like I’d failed as a parent. But his diagnosis and treatment, and the string of hospitalization my daughter has had the past year for related mood disorders, is not my fault any more than my dad’s need to monitor his diabetes is my grandmother’s fault. They just are. I have small moments of bravery whenever I defend my decisions regarding my children’s medical care- people who don’t understand the extent of their mental illness can’t grasp that the medications and the special schooling isn’t “taking the easy way out” or “coddling,” and they won’t grow out of this behavior.
It was brave for me to get tested five years ago to find out if I was a match to donate a kidney to my brother in law. My husband was as much of a match as I was, so I didn’t have to do the surgery, but I am now the next in line if Hubby’s kidney starts to fail and BIL decides to go through with a third transplant (their older brother donated back in the 80s).
Twitter Name: MamaKaren
Your kids are lucky people to have such a strong advocate.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
Thanks for writing this, Schmutzie. I hate it when people make comments like “Well, you should be glad you don’t have it worse – I know someone who [had a worse tragedy than you]“. I don’t know what they hope to accomplish.
I was brave when I made the decision to discontinue life-saving efforts after my dad had his stroke.
I was brave when I held myself back from screaming at my mom when she wouldn’t stop blathering on about trivial things as my dad took his last breaths.
I was brave when I made the decision to leave an emotionally abusive relationship and to hold my head up for the long time it took me to put my plan into place.
I was brave last night when I took my weak, clumsy, fat body into a dance class that I wasn’t sure I would make it through. I got sweaty, I got hot, I had to do modified moves, but I made it and I found a lovely, passionate, supportive teacher.
Twitter Name: suebob
Suebob, you know I think you rock, but one of the things I love about you is your ability to find adventure, whether its making tutus with your dad for charity or taking on a dance class.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
You rock! And yes, agree we should all be owning our acts of courage and bravery. Because owning them makes us feel STRONG (and strong is GOOD!)
I am kind of jealous of you mention of going to the dreaded dentist, something long overdue for me but huge hang up. The kids go every 6 mos. Me? Has been 3 years..
We need a dentist-type intervention, I think. I am terrified. TERRIFIED. It’s my biggest fear of all.
Twitter Name: schmutzie
Two years ago a dental office opened in town featuring ‘concious sedation’ specializing in scaredy cats who dread going to the dentist. Sounds great and think in a year or two I may, just MAY be able to make the appointment (which I may or may not cancel ;)
Maybe you guys should try a pediatric dentist. If you explained your fear, maybe they would take you. We have a wonderful one who got my daughter to open her mouth and take her x-rays and get her teeth cleaned when she was 5. At the time my daughter was diagnosed with selective mutism, an anxiety disorder which gives her a paralyzing fear of speaking in certain social situations. We have one month left to go in kindergarten and she has yet to speak at school but the kind, gentle dentist made her feel so safe and secure, she fully cooperates and answers them with nonverbal shakes of her head and such. She even often freezes or screams at the regular pediatrician. Does this sound crazy? Just a suggestion…
Twitter Name: HeatherSchiavo
Thanks for this post and for your bravery. I was brave this week when I stood in front of a group and gave an “inspiration” themed speech on dealing with the death of my mom this year. It was like one giant exhale.
Thanks for this.
I always feel like I’m not as brave as others or that I’m not worthy of being told that I’m brave.
I’m brave every day when I walk into the hospital for radiation treatments.
Twitter Name: NJdreaming
Yes you are! Radiation is a big deal! Go you!
Twitter Name: HeatherSchiavo
Oh my God. I can’t admit I was brave. I want to cry right now. I have been through so many of the same things I’m admiring everyone else’s bravery for and yet, I don’t feel like I deserve credit for being brave. Ok, there was a long pause here and twiddling of thumbs and playing with hair and thinking that the internet does not account for. I am scared of my list. Does that still count for being brave?
I was brave when I buried twin boys that were born prematurely at 21 weeks gestation. I cried my heart out but I showed up and I did it.
I was brave when 14 months later, 6 mos pregnant with my daughter, I was diagnosed with breast cancer.
I was brave when I laid on the operating table, and my doctor removed another pre-term baby from me and whisked her off to the NICU, so that I could have life-saving breast cancer surgery in the next few days.
I was brave when I hugged my toddler and my infant to me and pretended like I wasn’t scared to death I was going to die from breast cancer and see neither of them make it to kindergarten.
I was brave when I finally admitted to myself and others that the something I knew was wrong with me for so many years, dating all the way back to elementary school, was anxiety and depression, and I needed help. I am brave when I take my medication every single day even though the stigma of mental illness (for myself) drives me crazy, because I want to be well.
Wow. I can’t tell you how many times I have blown people off for telling me how brave I was during those times. Thank you.
Twitter Name: HeatherSchiavo
Heather, you’re incredibly brave. (((hugs)))
Twitter Name: NJdreaming
I was brave when I stood up to an in charge/old school doctor that didn’t care if my daughter went on dialysis. I fought around him and won her kidney transplant based on quality of life issues. His head is still spinning that insurance approved it.
Twitter Name: juliaroberts1
I was brave when I started writing down my real thoughts instead of what I imagined other people needed me to say. It is a daily struggle to get past the perceived need and on to the real real.
I fear you will click the link next to my name and read my blog at a random place so if I may direct you to a relevant post about being brave…
http://free2b2much.blogspot.com/2010/11/dedicated-to-my-sisters.html
Thank you for sharing your journey!
http://free2b2much.blogspot.com/2010/11/dedicated-to-my-sisters.html
Oh I am so sorry…that last comment was only a partial.
It is a link to something I wrote in a brave moment.
I am brave every time I write what I am really thinking instead of what I think other people need or want to hear. It is new for me. A relief…and incredibly terrifying.
Thank you for sharing your journey!
and I am really brave to post just one more comment to yet again admit that I do not really get this whole posting comments thing…(obviously) sheesh!
Thank you for the place to say the things that I am afraid to think to myself.
I was brave when I decided that it was OK to be sad.
I was brave when I stopped seeing my abusive ex.
I was brave when I asked someone to help me who I wasn’t sure still cared enough to try.
I was brave when I admitted to myself that, more than anything else, I just want to be happy with someone who will love me as I am.
I was brave when I stopped pretending to be something I am not to please other people.
I was brave when I wrote this post and admitted that I am not that funny, not that lighthearted, not that joyous…but I’m trying.
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