Dear Cecily,
How do you keep things spicy while wearing pajama pants?
You don’t.
Seriously.
Unless you married or are partnered with someone with a pajama pants fetish. Which you didn’t, or you wouldn’t be asking me this question. But let’s all pause for a moment to think how awesome it would be to have ACTUALLY married someone with a pajama pants fetish, shall we? And while we’re at it, a massage giving fetish, and a dishwashing fetish, and a hair brushing fetish.
What? I like my hair being brushed.
Now, I am going to answer this next part as if you are partnered to a man. Because if you are partnered to a woman I’m the wrong gal for advice. So, assuming it is a man, well, it doesn’t actually MATTER to him that you’re wearing pajama pants. Seriously. You just need to indicate in some manner or another that you are interested in nooky and he’s all over it.
I just recently finished reading Alisa Bowman’s Project Happily Ever After, a great book about how she fell back in love with her husband, and one of the things that stood out the most for me is this statement: foreplay for women begins 24 hours before sex, and 24 seconds before sex for men.
In other words, in order for the spice to happen, you gotta do something 24 hours before you get in the pajama pants. So maybe the day before you want to have sex, do something nice for yourself. Take a bath, shave your legs, spend some time with your vibrator (and if you don’t have one, for GOD’S SAKE, BUY ONE NOW). Tell you husband or partner that if he wants some nooky, to please do something nice for you that is unrelated to sex the day before.
Because the one thing that is not going to happen, frankly, is the giving up of the pajama pants. Let’s just let that go, shall we?
About Cecily Kellogg
Rock on, girly! Thanks for the reminder to put the “game” back in game. I needed that!
Twitter Name: Janie Snelson
I was going to say, the simple answer is “take them off.” lol
Twitter Name: missbritt
This is so perfect.
Twitter Name: bookishpenguin
Isn’t this a situation for the Pajama Jeans?!
Georgette, I’m telling you, I want the pajama jeans. I know. But I do.
That little tidbit about foreplay is SO. RIGHT.
Twitter Name: mommygeekology
I have found that women are like crock pots & men are like microwaves. We are turned on differently.
Aaaand I TOTALLY want some pajama jeans. No shame here.
Twitter Name: robinplemmons
foreplay for women begins 24 hours before sex, and 24 seconds before sex for men.
Unfortunately that stat was debunked by a team of experts who proved that too many stats get in between your man, the bed and you. It is time to stop trading housework for 2o minutes of the woppity-boppity.
Twitter Name: thejackb
Well, watching my husband unload the dishwasher does it for me.
Twitter Name: juliaroberts1
The way to get spicy while wearing pajama pants is to start by not wearing a shirt.
Are yoga pants in the same category as pajama pants? Pleasesaynopleasesaynopleasesayno.
Twitter Name: izzymom
I love having my hair brushed too! Remember when I had really short hair? I don’t think I’ll do that again – short hair isn’t so easy to have brushed.