Laef and I have been married for 3 months.
I think.
We have been checking the mail every day for the past 2 months in hopes that our marriage license will arrive and we can let out the final sigh, that, yes, despite some flaws (booking two limos, for example) we are in fact married.
Not only does that piece of paper make our union official, it means that I totally didn’t fuck this up. Because, in all honesty, there were moments where I wondered exactly what would transpire on July 18, 2009.
While I am somewhat anal with my day-to-day routine, planning a wedding is not easy, and it can be utterly overwhelming. It’s the little things that become ginormous headaches.
You would think ordering a limo would be easy. Yet, somehow we found a way to sign two contracts with two different companies. It was sure a lovely feeling to be sitting in the limo about to leave for pictures and get a phone call from a different limo driver letting us know he was ready to pick us up.
We had to send one of them on their way, but because we had already signed a contract, there was no refunding the $500.
It’s funny now.
Kind of.
My brother-in-law married us. I gave all official documents to my sister so that she could mail them for me.
I called to triple check that the documents were placed in the mail. She informed me, that, yes, the documents went to Disneyland with them, then to Camarillo to her friends house. My sister ASSURES me that said friend put them in the mail.
This six degrees of Kevin Bacon marriage license game makes me nervous.
Now that it’s been so long, I figure I need to call the courthouse.
I’m sure you can all imagine how friendly and helpful LA courthouse workers are. It’s like DMV times 3485723094.
The lady basically says, “You dumb motherfucker, you are supposed to include a $13 check with the signed license to pay for the copy that we will then send you.”
Click.
Hmmm. I am pretty sure there was no $13 check, and thus we now have to go back to the courthouse to wait in line to make this thing officially official.
Why can’t I ever do anything the easy, simple, correct way?
At least we looked cute.
Funny.. but not. You can always say.. tell him you want a second honeymoon if you’re gonna have marry him AGAIN… OH and don’t invite the lady from the LA CO court house, she’s a bitch! NO CAKE FOR YOU LADY
Twitter Name: dipaolamomma
@DiPaola Momma,
Second honeymoon sounds amazing. One of the definite bright spots of getting married – an entire week to do nothing was wonderful
I think officials at county, state, federal, and provincial offices would be more relaxed if they could call us “dumb motherfucker” more often, don’t you? But I’d only allow it if we could call them that too without getting thrown in jail for verbally abusing people who sometimes deserve it.
Twitter Name: motherbumper
@katie ~ motherbumper,
She might as well of just said it. Then I could have said it and we’d both be happy. I get that they probably take 100 calls a day from people asking stupid questions, but it’d sure be nice to have a friendly voice on the other end.
We had to have our licensce at the church with us. After the ceremony, we went in and signed it, along with witnesses and the priest, and then came back out for pictures. With all the commotion of pictures, I left the licensce in one of the pews, and had to send my step dad back for it. He found it, but said it had clearly been hidden….I’m 99% sure it was my MIL.
@AJ,
HAAAAAAAAAAAAA. That last sentence killed me. :)
Looking good is half the battle. The rest is just paperwork. And it’s pretty much pointless. Unless one of you is waiting for that life insurance policy to kick in :) Then it might mean a little more!
Twitter Name: mommaruthsays
@mommaruthsays,
Yeah, I don’t know that much has changed since we got married. But, we do have cute pictures of us all dressed up, so that’s nice. :)
Very nice picture! You guys look great.
@Erin,
Thanks, Erin!!
We got married in Mexico a couple of years ago. I did all the leg work to ensure that it was, indeed, completely legal. A couple of months ago my MIL calls, “I heard on Rush Limbaugh that if you get married in Mexico it isn’t legal in the US.” Um, ok. Because when is Rush all knowing about anything??
Twitter Name: KarenChatters
@Karen,
Um…I am pretty sure if Rush said it the opposite is true.
Why is your marriage license coming in the mail? I got married this past weekend and we went to the Town Hall that day to get certified copies of the marriage license.
Twitter Name: SillyJaime
@Jaime,
Because we got married on a Saturday evening and left Sunday morning for our honeymoon. So, they gave us an envelope to mail it, and if we had included the $13 check, they would have sent the copy in the mail. Which is easier than going back to the courthouse.
@Allison, Ah! I see! I hope you get it soon. Have you called them to ask if they received your marriage certificate license thing? I’m not sure about all states, but in RI the license has to be returned, signed, within 72 hours after the wedding is performed or it’s invalid.
Twitter Name: SillyJaime
That picture is adorable:)
@Jen @ lifelovenwine,
Thanks, Jen! We couldn’t have asked for a nicer day in terms of weather.
We lost our paper work on the altar, I haven’t seen it in 14yrs. I blame my BIL
One of my best friends found out 8 years after the ceremony that the license never made it to the courthouse. Eight years.
Got our license at the York town hall three days before the wedding and got several copies in the mail from them a week or so after the wedding…from Maine to Oregon…with love! Granted, York is about 6 million times smaller than LA. I believe the York town hall also shares a building with the police station, court house, library, and general store…gotta love small town New England!