Comments on: A Downer About Uppers

By: schmutzie

schmutzie — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 17:37:13 +0000

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By: Annie

Annie — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 02:21:23 +0000

Tena K- Good for you. Taking care of your self is not as easy as it should be. I happen to like you drugged or foot loose and fancy free.
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By: Barb

Barb — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 02:00:55 +0000

Tena,
I can identify with how you feel because I have been there myself. The first time was during college -and my parents sent me to a therapist who helped me enough to get my shit together and be able to function back @ college.

The second time was after my third child was about a year old and I was finally diagnosed as being clinically depressed and my dr. put me on antidepressants. I was on them for about 14 yrs. They really helped. It turned out my body did not make enough of that hormone that makes you want to get out of bed every day and just be happy. About 4 years ago my current doctor slowly weaned me off of the meds and I have been pretty much ok ever since.

The bottom line (especially if you are a mom) is that you do what you have to do to get through a day. If that means taking meds so you can “be there” for your kids… then you do it, because the alternative is something you don’t want them to see.

The meds are not a sign of weakness- but rather a sign of strength that you are taking control of your life.
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By: alimartell

alimartell — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 00:08:28 +0000

I’m so glad that you stopped being so hard on yourself. you need to do whatever you can to make you YOU. whatever it takes. There is no shame in taking pills. LOVE THIS POST. LOVE YOU, LADY!
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By: alisha

alisha — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:03:22 +0000

@tena, Thank you. I have been talking to someone that is helping me process. I have taken medication before and am all for it. It brought me out of a dark place. If I ever get depressed I got right to my doctor about it. I haven’t felt that way recently but I can tell you that after this weekend I would never do it. I saw all the pain left behind. It was pure devastation. It was so different than other funerals (well you know) only because there are so many questions. His mother was worried about the stigma because it was in the paper everyday for about three days. I told her “my age group doesn’t put stigma on it because we understand and have all been in that mindframe”. I discussed it with many friends and we also have been talked to in school about suicide. It is no longer a taboo to talk about depression and suicide. I just wish he would have said something to someone.

By: tena

tena — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 21:38:04 +0000

@alisha, God that must be so hard- process it- talk to someone- it’s important. Whether you decide medication is for you or not- you need to talk with someone. The pain that was brought on by my family members’ suicides still makes me ache- I wish they talked to someone- anyone! Good luck to you.
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By: alisha

alisha — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 21:08:19 +0000

I have also seen my mom go through depression she wanted to die. It was stressful. I have had depression and suicidal thoughts in my own life and I always hid them and kept them to myself. This weekend I went to a funeral for a 25 year old man (4 years younger than I am). I have known him since he was a baby. I held his mom while she sobbed. He took his own life by falling backwards off of a bluff. He never told anyone he was depressed and contemplating suicide. I saw so much pain this weekend, I saw the pain my mom would have gone through. It was mind blowing. I am still processing things. Thank you for this post. I am so happy you are taking meds and getting treatment.

By: tena

tena — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:22:41 +0000

@Karl, you HAD to go there, didn’t you? I was feeling pretty good about things until you reminded me of the exercising- urgh! You’re right though, it does help, but it’s too hard to work out while working on the computer. When I figure out how to multi-task that- maybe I’ll consider it.

Thanks for the comment, Karl.
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By: tena

tena — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:20:29 +0000

@mommaruthsays, Everyone’s different, but that’s what I need. It doesn’t take away the problem, just makes it more manageable on a day to day basis.
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By: tena

tena — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:18:54 +0000

@grumble girl, thanks for your kind words and your grammar correction- that would’ve put me over the edge- kidding- mostly.
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