Hold your britches.
Another month has passed.
Another Sunday where I turn to Laef one last time before heading to Target to pick up my freedom birth control pills.
Me: “Should I get the prescription?”
Laef: “Is that what you want?”
Me: Long pause. “Not yet.”
Laef: “Well, we can still practice how to have a baby and then when you get off the pill we will be expert baby-makers.”
I have heard numerous accounts of how boring baby-making sex is. I mean, it’s still sex, so it’s kind of fun.
Due to the fact that I Aim Low, I can pretty much guarantee there won’t be any charts or calendars or specific days penciled in for sexy times.
This might sound naive, but I figure if we have sex every day, it’s bound to happen at some point, right?
I just got a migraine thinking about that. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
I have realized that that idea will be cool. For three days.
Heather reassured me that we could get away with doing it every other day.
That just led to Laef asking all sorts of questions about Heather and why she would want to sabotage him and how if we skip a day it just might be THE day.
So, here we are at least starting to have the discussions about how I will for sure get have to be on bottom and how I will have to rest a lot and not move around too much and most definitely, I CAN NOT CHANGE THE LITTER BOX.
In fact, I think there are a whole list of chores I won’t be able to.
Unfortunately, there are also a whole list of must-haves (wine, sushi, coffee) I won’t be able to have.
I’m getting excited just thinking about it all.
I can’t wait to end the prescription and tell all sorts of baby-making sex stories.
I bet those will be exciting!
- That time when I sent a man to the looney bin. Really. For serious.
- If You're Related to Me, Keep Walking—There's Nothing to Read Here!
- Sex In The City (Apparently Not Enough If You Ask One of Us)
- My husband can attribute a lot of nookie to this incident.
- Aaaaaannnnnddddd scene. Ok, take off your pants.
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Take it from another mom who went through baby making sex for about 6 months…it’s not even kind of fun at some points. But Heather is right…every other day will do the trick. Good luck!
Twitter: anissamayhew
September 2, 2009 at 9:12 am
Baby Shmaby!! Sleep is good.
The more frequently you have sex, the lower the sperm count.
Twitter: KarenChatters
September 2, 2009 at 9:31 am
We’re doing the ‘trying to make a baby’ sex too. I don’t think I like it much, kinda mundane. Hubs thinks we should do it every day as well, I laugh hysterically when he mentions it. Hell, every other day seems ambitious and like it would require energy, which I don’t have. I feel like if we do it once a week, I’ve accomplished something. If my sex life is this dull with only 1 kid, what will it be like with 2??
“That just led to Laef asking all sorts of questions about Heather and why she would want to sabotage him and how if we skip a day it just might be THE day.”
Hahaha, awesome.
It is one of the cruel twists of fate that one of life’s truly enjoyable experiences becomes an unenjoyable chore.
Look. You know your body and your cycles better than anybody. And you know when the ‘fertile’ times in your cycle should be due. Just cut him off for a week beforehand. Believe me, when the time is right, he’ll be ready. In fact, you should BOTH be ready. And HAVE FUN. Get up there and bounce on it. Practice tantric sex. Do it doggy style. Go at it for three straight days and see what happens. But don’t let your physical ‘love life’ become a chore – for either one of you.
Actually, having sex every day can lower your chances of ‘it’ working. When we were trying for this baby, Month 1 we were off on dates because of my endometriosis. Month 2, we did it every day for 21 days because By God, I was NOT missing the day again. It didn’t work. I went to the doctor. After he wiped the surprised look off of his face and repeating “you had sex every day for 21 days,” he calmed down and then he said that lowers the sperm count. And all the ‘good’ sperm are used up by the time you ovulate, and all that are left are dim wits who can’t find the egg. So his advice, and it worked (twice actually), was to have sex regularly the week that is two weeks before ovulation, then take a week off (which is the week before ovulation) so the sperm count builds up, and then have sex every other day for about a week when you are ovulating. The week after ovulation, do whatever you want.
Tell Laef I’m sorry!
Twitter: Amy_Urquhart
September 2, 2009 at 10:34 am
I used a website (geek alert) called Fertility Friend to chart my cycle. Then we had sex on the days that I was ovulating. So you get a little run of everyday-sex but not all month. That’s just…exhuasting.
Twitter: alotofnothing
September 2, 2009 at 10:37 am
Every day?
Ugh.
Ok, I’m month FIVE into baby-making sex. It CAN be fun. It can be fun to have sex for daysssss in a row. For a total of 3 days. Then, not so much fun. After 3 days, you start to say things like “Can you just DO IT already?!”. Even every other day can be too much sometimes.
Is it possible for someone (me) to have that much sex and still not be preggers??
You can still have sushi, its food poisoning you need to avoid :)
Tell him sperm lives in utero for approximately 72 hours and that is how you can skip a day. I pretty much know everything about baby making sex, but when I actually got pregnant was after I gave up all that crap and just went back to having sex the way that was fun.
Twitter: mamabean
September 2, 2009 at 12:17 pm
OK, i get the feeling that everyone’s going to hate me… for us, babymaking sex started out as honeymoon sex and then the condom got different ideas, apparently. I had only been off the pill for a month too. We joke about The Husband having superman sperm.Don’t ask me how we managed to hit it right on the dot. I think they put something in the water at Disneyworld. But everyday? Ugh. Maybe it’s just my preggo hormones talking, but no thank you.
I just got off BC because it was driving me crazy so naturally the baby talk came up. We have a 5 month old and I can’t do this again. Not anytime soon, anyway. And yes, practicing is totally fun.
Twitter: SillyJaime
September 2, 2009 at 1:12 pm
I am READY to hear all your baby-making-sex stories!
That sounds weird.
My boyfriend and I are planning on having kids after we get married next year, so any pointers from experience would rock. :D
Every other actually is BETTER – give his guys time to mature inside, where they’re supposed to mature. The guys live inside ya for up to 3 days….so you’ll never “miss” the ovulation. Good luck….from a person who has 2 oops babies, because we were like bunnies both times…when we “tried” we didn’t make it….though I honestly think there’s some weight to the fertile month theory – seeing as both times I got pregnant, it was June.
Twitter: Melissa Siig
September 2, 2009 at 2:55 pm
You only need to have sex around the time you ovulate – about 10-14 days after your period starts. The weird thing is you can have sex on a Monday but get pregnant on a Friday while you are cleaning your bathtub because the little swimmers can live for a while inside you. Weird, huh? I didn’t know any of this either before I started trying to conceive. Wish I had learned this in school so I wouldn’t have spent all those years freaking out about getting knocked up.
it can get complicated but have fun
We tried (every thing) for 19 months to get pregnant. Just as I was about to go on clomid I told the dr. I wanted one last month and we did IT every single day. For a whole month. The first week was awesome, we were all, oh, the more you do it the more you want it. by the end we hated the sight of each other. HOWEVER, I did get pregnant. Doing it (should I say having sex? Or making sweet sticky love?) every other day did not work, tracking my cycle did not work. Just hard work and having the coitus even when it made us want to cut ourselves.
Yes, sex every other day is just about right. And trust me, skip the calendars and fancy charts – in my experience anyway, it’s only causing more stress than it’s worth.
Maybe you’ll be ready to try by the time I finally get knocked up :)
Yeah I’ve heard every other day is the best course of action too, but timing it right is good too! And yeah, from a guys point of view, don’t let it become a chore.
You just need to make the time and enjoy yourselves, and then sooner or later…
Twitter: mamaspohr
September 3, 2009 at 7:52 pm
You can do it once a month and get knocked up. TRUST ME.
Every other day and you might end up with sextuplets. HA GET IT! I crack myself up.
There were times when it was down-right awful. When mu husband said he just didn’t think he could do it (I didn’t think that could actually happen, but yes, it can). We were trying way too hard. We took it down a notch. We charted ovulation. And we got pregnant, and I knew the exact day it happened.